“Comparison is the thief of joy” – Theodore Roosevelt
Remember this quote as you scroll through Instagram, Facebook or anything where someone shows you the best things of their life. Be careful, comparison can catch you off guard. I can be having a great day—as happy as can be #Blessed. And then after scrolling through Instagram, all of a sudden I feel like I’ve lost some of the wind in my sails. I start thinking about where I want to be instated of being content with where I am. Does that ever happen to you? All of a sudden you realize you’ve never been on a fancy trip #FamilyVaCay. You didn’t have a hot date last night with your man where he spoiled you with roses again #MyManLovesMe. And you definitely don’t look like that one fitness chick #CleanEating #WorkHard.
I’ve been thinking a lot about social media and how it can affect our spirit. Listen when I tell you that your journey is your own, specially tailored for you and nobody can take that from you. There are so many special gifts along the road waiting for you and only you. When you look at what other people have and start comparing it to what you have, you may start to devalue something that is actually pretty special. It’s special because it’s specifically for you at this point in your life.
Maybe that “thing” someone has is a husband or a wife, well enjoy your single-hood now. Enjoy making your own decisions in life, because when you bring in a partner you have to learn to compromise and that ain’t easy! Maybe that “thing” is a baby. Enjoy your sleep now because from what I hear you don’t get much of that when you have kids. Or perhaps that thing someone has is success. My husband and I talk about this often—you need to define success before you pursue it. If you don’t, you’ll end up never feeling satisfied or proud of yourself, because someone will ALWAYS have a bigger better victory than you. So, if you define success as losing 5 lbs, and you succeed at losing the 5lbs, then you win! And when you find out your friend lost 15 lbs, you don’t have to compare yourself to them—you can celebrate them. Because you both succeeded. Imagine running a race but constantly looking at the lanes to your left and your right. That’s going to slow you down. Distract you from your goal. Keep your eye on the prize. Really, the only person you’re competing against is yourself. So, go as fast as you want, as slow as you want and take as many water breaks as you want. Just keep your head up and focused on your own lane so you don’t miss out on the gifts God places in your path.